The saddest “Bachelorette” ever
I’m an unabashed reality show junkie from wayyyyy back in the “Real World” days. Besides Real World, America’s Next Top Model, Top Chef, Project Runway, yes even Joe Millionaire (I read, too. I swear. Big books with big words!)
Yet, for the most part, “The Bachelor” and later “The Bachelorette” eluded me. Sure I’d watch now and again, usally at the end, some bachelors (and ettes) more than others, but only with half an eye (while blogging, usually).
But tonight, maybe it’s me, maybe it’s my lack of full-on bachelorette participation, but
I felt tears, not of joy. (spoiler alert!)
The “loser” in this show was a 31 year old single dad who told his little boy about this woman, who sacrificed time with his child and whose eyes spoke deep true feeling for this woman. The winner seemed nice, too. Funny, loud, wavy-haired. But the sadness in the loser’s eyes.
And he wasn’t the only one. There were lots of losers. That’s the point of the show – only one “wins” love, well two win love. the rest lose. One of the other losers went to see the Bachelorette, after being kicked off, a new twist (to me anyway). With tears in his eyes, he said he probably hadn’t given enough of himself to her – after his mother (and I believe father’s too) death, he couldn’t feel anymore but he was starting to, with her support and affection. She had tears in her eyes and his hands in hers when she said “no, I just don’t feel that way for you.” I believed she was trying to be honest, trying to do right by him and by herself. But if she didn’t love him, why hold his hands, why care at all?
Do I know this woman, the bachelorette, Deanna? Of course not. Do I know the losers or winner? Nope. But tonight I heard a man ask when his love knew – knew it wasn’t him. And I heard another say he was broken and wouldn’t be made whole again. And I wondered – can you win love on a game show? And I knew the answer was no. but we, bachelors and bachelorettes, already knew that.
stella said,
Wrote on July 8, 2008 @ 12:29 am
This make us wonder, why do we watch these shows anyways if we don’t even believe them…..
dietcokeandfries said,
Wrote on July 8, 2008 @ 12:30 am
I am watching it now. Seriously. Depressing.
Anonymous said,
Wrote on July 8, 2008 @ 1:01 am
I do not give them 2 months. You wait and see. she is the big loser!!!! And I think Jason may be very lucky!!!
Anonymous said,
Wrote on July 8, 2008 @ 2:05 am
If Jesse won the heart of the beautiful and intelligent bachelorette, Deanna, then we all stand a chance in love. Jesse was the runt of the litter among the handsome and educated suitors courting Deanna. He wore a multi-colored blazer and sneakers on the premier episode. His profession is professional snow-boarding. Jesse made it clear during the show that he was not looking to get married. He, perhaps was having fun winning a challenge; although, Deanna is a lot prettier than a snowboard. I thought that she would have give a more serious consideration to her future. May they be happy, snow and all. Thus, summer will surely come.
Anonymous said,
Wrote on July 8, 2008 @ 4:37 am
Well they could not be more different!!!!I somehow do not see her in colorado while he does his skate boarding. She is a real gogetter as a woman I bet and I figure she will be running the boat and it won’t be in colorago. Can you snow board in Geogia??? We will see, I wish them well and happiness!!!
New Trends » Blog Archive » bachelorette 2008 said,
Wrote on July 8, 2008 @ 5:46 am
[…] The saddest “Bachelorette” everBesides Real World, America’s Next Top Model, Top Chef, Project Runway, yes even Joe Millionaire (I read, too. I swear. Big books with big words!) Yet, for the most part, “The Bachelor” and later “The Bachelorette” eluded me. … – […]
Frank L said,
Wrote on July 8, 2008 @ 9:26 am
…you know this is TV, right?
soupisnotafingerfood said,
Wrote on July 8, 2008 @ 7:52 pm
Yeah, but Trista and Ryan just had a baby, and they seem perfectly happy!
*snort*
ceggydoo said,
Wrote on April 3, 2009 @ 9:41 am
While I do not watch that particular reality show, I am trying VERY hard to wean myself off of “reality” TV. I like to suspend reality while watching my stories and more importantly… it is getting increasingly more difficult to explain the difference between reality and fiction to my children. My 7-yr-old will site things that happen on reality shows (nothing risque) as real when clearly they are contrived. And like in the bachelorette, the results of entertainment are often at the expense of an expendable few. 🙁
washwords said,
Wrote on April 3, 2009 @ 9:55 am
funny given the update – of course,THIS YEAR jason became the bachelor, narrowed down to two, picked one, came back in a “shocking, most dramatic moment ever” special to say “oopsie picked the wrong one, I meant I wanted HER, and let the cycle repeat. My feeling sorry for him has turned to “that dude has issues”. Heh, what a shocker, a single dad willing to subject his kid to a slew of women, each seeming equally important till they’re not has issues? who woulda guessed it;) Welcome back ceggydoo. glad to see ya!